"Deep down we all know who we are but we're afraid that if we stay true to ourselves and stand out that other people will disapprove. After my journey this year I can say that when you embrace yourself more everyday, that what is not true to your true self (meaning false friends or things you don't need) will disappear from your life and more people that reflect your higher spirit will come on your path."
*Epictetus, the Greek philosopher, said "Know first, who you are; then adorn yourself accordingly." What does this mean to you? In other words, what's your philosophy on fusing style with spirit?
Good question! I believe as kids we have a good idea of who we are but then as we grow up our parents, society and friends shape and form our personality which is why a lot of people feel lost when they're teenagers (which was also my case).
Over the past few years I have become more of myself every day. Last year when I did the big chop and embraced my natural hair, this year when I finally started wearing the bright colors I love instead of being afraid of standing out too much and surrounding myself with loving, supportive people who reflect me in many ways.
Deep down we all know who we are but we're afraid if we stay true to ourselves and stand out that other people will disapprove. After my journey this year I can say that when you embrace yourself more everyday, that what is not true to your true self (meaning false friends or things you don't need) will disappear from your life and more people that reflect your higher spirit will come on your path. People can feel this because I've never had so many compliments on my hair, fashion style and me as a person. I claimed my power and others sense it and hopefully this inspires them to fuse their style with their spirit.
*How would you describe your style?
Colorful, creative and free. I don't like labels so I won't describe it as sporty chic, hipster or whatever. If I feel blue, I wear that color. If I want to wear sneakers with a pencil skirt, I do that even if to some that is a fashion no no. My style is as free, creative and colorful as my personality so I want it to reflect just that :D
I love channeling my mood with bright colors. There have been many studies on the power of colors so that's one way for me to reinforce my happy mood or cheer me up when I need to. I also have color 'moments' where I wear a certain color during certain times. Before that was orange and now I'm drawn to yellow.
Last weekend I did an inner goddess workshop and our teacher also told us about the power of colors. Yellow is the color of the 3rd chakra (solar plexus) and it means I'm reclaiming my power. It's also the chakra I'm working on so it was exciting to hear this. I will write about the effect of colors and chakras soon as I'm sure this might be useful to many!
*Do you consider yourself to favor a more minimalist or 'maximallist' approach to your wardrobe?Minimalist on the shapes and prints but a maximalist when it comes to color :D I think my afro is the best accessory I have so I don't feel the need to go overboard with different shapes. Color blocking is a style that makes me happy so I'm not afraid to try a bold color combination or stand out. I often feel like I'm the only one wearing color in a black and white movie.:D
*Where do you find fashion inspiration?
Everywhere! In nature, TV, internet, magazines, people, street style, celebrities, and traveling. Nature and the bright colors I see on the streets have inspired my color combinations posts. If you have trouble knowing what colors match, look around! When it comes to celebs Solange Knowles, Elle Varner and Gwen Stefani are my style crushes. They're colorful, creative and feminine.
*What's one fashion 'rule' that you love to break?
Some say red doesn't go with pink but I dare to differ. You can combine a lot of colors when you find the right shade that matches with one another. Don't let fashion brands or the industry impose fashion guidelines on what you love to wear. Just wear what you love, look at your body type and rock it. A lot of fashion faux pas have become fashion trends afterwards so in my opinion there are no real fashion rules
*Most women go through phases where they dress to impress men, other women, and eventually to please themselves. Did you go through this? If so, please share your experience of learning to dress to please yourself.
When I was a teenager I was so insecure & I wanted others to approve of me and my fashion style. I was still looking for my own look so often times I would wear something that I knew others would like and also to not be underdressed compared to other women. Even if that meant wearing shoes that were not comfortable. I didn't want to stand out in a bad way but I didn't want to look too good so everybody would look at me, if that makes sense.
I've always admired people who had a creative look that stood out but I didn't have the courage to wear it because I wanted to blend in the background. The beginning of this year I thought about myself, my blog and what I wanted for myself. People would always describe me as colorful even though I didn't wear much color so I gave it a go because I secretly wanted to wear bright shades but didn't have the courage before. I'm glad I did because I feel more empowered because I have the courage to be me and wear what I really like.
Please share your favorite quote, scripture or affirmation related to beauty, fashion or personal style.
Had to look for one, but found one that defines what true beauty is about :-)
"There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty" - Dr. Steve Maraboli
Name: Jocelina Fortes
Blog: Pink Chocolate Break