Tuesday, December 3, 2013

Safa Iman // Soulful Beauty of the Week


"We spoke for almost an hour and he apologized. There was laughter and only peace. I didn't feel pain, anger, hate, anxiety or anything that I had felt for so long. There was only love and at that moment, I knew I was free. I was free from that situation controlling my life. I was free of the things that I identified at that time which were slowing my growth and a tremendous peace and understanding came over me. Understanding coupled with the knowledge that there was so much more I needed to learn. At that moment I started trusting my steps."
| Safa Iman




*Describe your a-ha moment.
I believe I've had a few "a-ha" moments. I come to these places as I journey where I go through spiritual growth spurts. My most drastic one though, was at the end of 2010. I had been in a very tumultuous relationship a couple years before and when it came to an end, even though I knew it was for the best, my pain was the most profound thing I have ever felt. I cried every day for a year and went through all the stages of grief in the most extreme way. Through that situation, I learned so much about myself and identified things I knew I needed to change. Things that I kept thinking were OK but hindered my growth and happiness.

We hadn't spoken in almost a year and one day, while I was cooking, he called me on Skype. We spoke for almost an hour and he apologized. There was laughter and only peace. I didn't feel pain, anger, hate, anxiety or anything that I had felt for so long. There was only love and at that moment, I knew I was free. I was free from that situation controlling my life. I was free of the things that I identified at that time which were slowing my growth and a tremendous peace and understanding came over me. Understanding coupled with the knowledge that there was so much more I needed to learn. At that moment I started trusting my steps. That year, a dear elder said to me, "You have a very calm radiance. Always walk tall in your own shoes." It has carried me far.

*Tell us something about your personality that used to bother you, but you've now learned to love?
I am a wanderer. A nomad. I don't like to be in the same place for too long. My soul always wants to travel. I used to think that something was wrong with that and growing up meant that I would have to silence that part of my spirit. I still worry about it sometimes but my life has been so amazing thus far and the more I embrace those innate things that make me who I am, the less I have to fight. I am a wanderer. "All who wander are not lost."


*What’s your best piece of woman-to-woman advice?
We must love and embrace ourselves if we are to love and embrace one another. We need to lift each other up and celebrate our differences. Learn from each another. The bonds of sisterhood are beautiful gifts and should be treasured, guarded and unbreakable.

*What has been your favorite mistake?
My favorite mistake has been dropping out of college in 2008. When I started my college career I had already been on the pre-med track since High School. I had done rotations at the hospital, was President of the HOSA (Health Occupations Students of America) club for my school and for as long as I could remember, I felt like medicine and becoming a doctor were sure things for my future. But as natural as medicine was for me, and as much as I love helping people I realized that the dream I thought I had since I was a little girl didn't come from me. I love my parents very much and they have always wanted what was best for me and at the time felt like being a doctor would be my purpose. I took time off to find my purpose and I am happy with the path I have chosen.

*So far, what has been the most challenging aspect of being a woman?
Finding balance and being OK with my masculine energy in a world where being a woman is so clearly defined. Just being a woman. Being the best sister, daughter, friend, future mother I can be and constantly being mindful to not constrain my power because of society's idea of what I should be.

*What do you not want us to know?
I am very insecure. Ever since I was a little thing, I've been told how beautiful I am but I don't deal with compliments well. It is a constant struggle and I know it's never ending because one day I will have a daughter and I need her to be able to look at herself and see the things people see in her, and especially the things they won't. She needs to be able to stand in her beauty regardless of what the world thinks. I've been trained to focus on inner beauty and somewhere along the way I had to learn that that too needs balance. That there is so much light on my face because it shines from my heart. There is constant progression, but I am not where I know I need to be in this aspect of my life.

*When do you feel most creative? What inspires you?
Creativity swims around me all the time. It sounds strange but I am always in love with everything. The way the curtain moves in the wind, the faint far away noises, the way people interact, everything inspires me. Creativity is expressed the strongest when I am at or have had a recent encounter with the ocean. She calms me and brings me so much peace. She quiets the things that threaten my creativity.


*How do you soothe yourself when you are upset, disappointed, angry, jealous?
I meditate. I remind myself that not all the emotions I feel are mine. If they are, I acknowledge them and get rid of them. Through meditation this has become exceedingly easy. Some occasions require more, but silence is my best friend. I quiet myself.

*What does it mean to you to be a soulful beauty?
A soulful beauty, to me, is someone who is in touch with the most beautiful parts of herself. The parts only the people who touch her deeply can see. Being a largely aesthetic society, people get caught up in images rather than what is at the core. I believe a soulful beauty understands the importance of building her innermost self over putting forth an image that only looks good on the outside.

*What is your favorite quote, scripture or affirmation?
I am a very big fan of the mystic and poet, Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Rūmī. There is a quote from him that reads:

"I searched for God among the Christians and on the Cross and therein I found Him not.
I went into the ancient temples of idolatry; no trace of Him was there.
I entered the mountain cave of Hira and then went as far as Qandhar but God I found not.
With set purpose I fared to the summit of Mount Caucasus and found there only 'anqa's habitation.
Then I directed my search to the Kaaba, the resort of old and young; God was not there even.
Turning to philosophy I inquired about him from ibn Sina but found Him not within his range.
I fared then to the scene of the Prophet's experience of a great divine manifestation only a "two bow-lengths' distance from him" but God was not there even in that exalted court.
Finally, I looked into my own heart and there I saw Him; He was nowhere else."

My spiritual journey has been so many things, most of all honest. This quote describes it perfectly.


Name: Safa Iman
Age: 28
Instagram: @peaceisofus

6 comments:

  1. This is beautiful. She seems like just a warm and peaceful spirit. Loved her story. Especially about her aha-moment. That hit home for me.

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  2. Very beautiful.. Her A-ha moment hit home for me as well.

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  3. This....just this. Down to almost a detail about every section Safa answered, I see me. Those answers would most surely be my own...and if I can find just a tiny measure of the peace she is radiating, awesome. This brought me tears this morning. Thank you :-)

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  4. You words are just going right through to me, like you're speaking the language inside of me. Amazing, soulful person!

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  6. wow this feature was amazing and your words resonated with me. Thank you.

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