Wednesday, March 12, 2014

This Is Why You Can't Find Your Purpose

I was looking everywhere for the damn thing.  I looked for it everyday, almost every minute. I knew I couldn't live long without it, so there was urgency.  I cried because I didn't know what it would look like. What if I missed it?  The longing lived in my touch, in my hugs and kisses.  With my body, I searched.  With my spirit, I watched and waited.

I thought that school would give it to me. Or maybe a man.  People told me I should model, so I thought I'd find it on a runway.  It wasn't there either.  I kept waiting for someone to reveal it to me.  What now?  Where else could I look?  I asked God only because I knew I was supposed to, but I never waited for an answer.  I was anxious, I was stubborn, so I wandered.

Motherhood?  So much beauty. But no, it wasn't there.
Job?  Nothing.  Not even a spark.  
Money?  Yes!  That must be where it is!

I threw myself into every make-big-money venture I could tolerate.  The damn thing wasn't there either.

The moments kept me going.  The butterflies.  When someone came to me for advice or comfort, I felt something.  When I diffused an argument or changed the energy in a room from tense to peace, there was a quiet knowing.  Calm was a power I'd always had but never valued.  Once I packaged my calm into written words, something shifted.

Soon I gave in to my butterflies and paid attention to what made me feel at home, no matter where I was.  I began to care about how I could make the world better in my own small way.   That became my priority -- to be a source of joy for myself and my territory.  Maybe I'd never find my purpose, but I decided to be a good sport about it.  I would focus on being a kind person. I would help other people cope and feel seen.

That's when it came to me at last. Quiet and familiar, like my prayers and my butterflies.  Everything I'd searched for, I already had.  It was there.  It was always there, just waiting for me to see it, water it and let it bloom.

Your purpose in life is simple.  Be your true blue, unequivocal self and embrace the miraculous journey that ensues.  (click to tweet)


Does that sound easy?  Well, because we are human, we like to make things difficult. And because I am me, I like to pick things apart, break them down and make them simple.  As such,  I welcome you to join me for The Purpose Session starting on Monday, March 17.

Through this four week program you will:
  • learn how to use writing as a vehicle for self-discovery
  • find personal clarity and understanding through self-expression
  • make peace with where you are and where you’re going
  • learn ways to soothe yourself when self-doubt and envy creeps in
  • experience a-ha moments about your strengths, weaknesses, and passions
  • develop habits and techniques that minimize negative thought patterns
  • define happiness, success and purpose for yourself
  • identify the limiting beliefs in your mind that are keeping you stuck
  • deepen your capacity for self-love, forgiveness and gratitude
Here's how it works:
  • Each participant will pay a one time fee of $20 for the four week session. 
  • Every Monday for four weeks, you will receive an email from me with a personal message and an attached workbook full of inspiration, examples, writing prompts and surprises. 
You can go through the workbooks at your own pace.  Once you register, you will have lifetime access to updates and add-ons.  I would be honored to be a part of your self-discovery process and I'm eager to share what I've learned.

Are you ready for this?

I'm sure you can come up with reasons why this isn't a good time, but won't there always be something? One of the key things I've learned this year is to truly evoke change, you have to take action and figure it out as you go.  When you feel the butterflies, acknowledge them. Trust them.  Follow where they lead.

If my words resonate with you, I encourage you to go through this program and explore how to find purpose in everything you go through, so you can begin to see the world and yourself in new, limitless ways.

UPDATE :  The Purpose Session is now available for purchase at any time so you can go at your own pace.  Four 20 page workbooks to stir you up and bring more of you out.  Dig in here.


  1. I think I've already registered for this and am really excited about the growth I hope to obtain through these purpose sessions because I do feel a bit lost but I think it's because I am ignoring the obvious in terms of who I am and what I may represent. I love the way you talk about your own issues with finding your purpose here and how free having found it seems to have made you. I think that's beautiful and I can't wait to have a taste of that wisdom

    1. Feeling lost is good. And I say that because for you to say that means that you are wandering and observing and feeling yourself but not sure where it's all going. That's part of the journey and it will just be that way sometimes. I'm sure you are right on track. The session started yesterday but there will be another one in May. I believe you are signed up for the newsletter so you will know when registration opens!

  2. Awwwww so would luv to catch the next session GG

    1. Hey lady! I would just love to have you :) Be sure to sign up for my newsletter so you'll be one of the first to know. My plan is to do another session in May.

  3. Hi GG Renee,
    Really want to be in the the next Purpose Session, let me know when it is and I'd love to ask some questions. Cany you email me or I contact you?

    1. Hi! The Purpose Session workbooks are available to purchase at any time now. Email me at ggrenee at allthemanylayers dot com and I will explain. :)