Friday, April 1, 2016

overcoming anxiety with minimalism { 10 ideas for a simpler life }





People make me nervous.

So do unexpected phone calls, overbooked schedules and uncomfortable clothes.

Life in general makes me nervous.  So many people and problems and energies and uncertainties.  I'm sensitive to all of it.

The older I get, the more of this world I consume, the more I feel overwhelmed and anxious.  But I know I need to be at peace and operating from a place of love, not fear, in order to live the life I want.  So I see this anxiety thing like any other challenge life throws at me, an opportunity to be creative with my life design.

Space eases anxiety for me.

To face my anxiety and understand what it's trying to teach me, I have to constantly clear my mind, body, spirit and surroundings of toxic energy and unnecessary clutter.  I have to create space, even when it seems there is none.

I've had to look closely at my old assumption that more stuff would bring me more happiness and validation.  I want to live slowly and savor my experiences a certain way, so I have to protect what is meaningful to me and let the rest go.

What stresses you out and makes you anxious day to day?  Start paying close attention to your triggers without assuming that you are wrong or weird.   Ideas flow more freely when you are not judging yourself. Notice what upsets you, what relaxes you, what angers you and lights you up, then one by one, start making adjustments.  Life does not have to feel so abrasive.  You can change your experience.

The lifestyle changes I've made are grounded in minimalism, creativity and most of all, love.  

Because when anxiety has me in its grip, worry and heaviness distract me from being present and open to what I love most.  Do you want to free up more energy and space to love what you love and do what you do with more clarity and intention?  I DO.  So these are just some of the ideas and adjustments that are helping me do that.

simple abundance.  creating more space and intentional energy in my mind, my home and surroundings.  simplifying my schedule.  spacing out my obligations. releasing the need to be everything to everyone. letting go of negative thought patterns. making sure everything that takes up space serves a purpose of function, nourishment, play or inspiration.

capsule everything.  less clothes.  less jewelry.  less makeup. less decisions. discovering the bare necessities that make me feel like myself, add value to my life and nuance to my aesthetic.  more time, space and energy to shine without fluff that just makes me feel awkward.

creative self-care.  less products. mostly natural and DIY.  the process of researching, experimenting and making my own products and regimens soothes me and has become a creative outlet.  discovering natural solutions makes me feel more resourceful in all aspects of my life and boosts my confidence.

cultivated certainty.  more yes, more no, less maybe.  lingering decisions make me nervous and distracted.  trusting my intuition and owning my decisions without regret creates the energy needed to move forward confidently, ready to accept the results of what I do.

social mantras.  before I go into social environments, I set my mind on being myself and not giving into intimidation, inadequacy or irrational fears.  I tell myself that I am enough, I am present, I am safe and I am grateful.

savor sensuality.  prioritize pleasure.  escape from stress and welcome sensation.  whatever strokes your femininity, make space for it.  have you ever written a romantic or erotic story?  choreographed a chair dance?  try it!

aromatherapy.   essential oils.  incense.  sage.  anointing myself with oils several times a day burning incense everyday.  my favorite for anxiety is an oil blend called peace that includes vetiver, lavender, ylang ylang, frankincense, clary sage, marjoram, and spearmint. (you can shop for high-quality essential oils including peace in my doTerra shop.)

visualization.  calming meditation + breathing exercises.  sit in a chair.  stare at the wall.  visualize your fears as clouds, floating by.  don't cling to them. let them pass without giving them energy. breathe in deeply and picture yourself breathing in clear, fresh air, full of hope and light.  breathe out and picture grey smoke leaving your body, full of doubt and fear.

art therapy.  write. color. draw. dance. paint. sing. sew. decorate. design. photograph. travel. cook.  transform your feelings and moods and passions into creations.

build community. creative soulmates. church friends. mom groups. sister circles.  yoga buddies.  book clubs.  running partners. whatever it is, get yourself a tribe that cares, understands and supports.  avoid gossiping and complaining.  surround yourself with people who talk about heart and soul and growth.

When you set out each day with peace as your priority, minor vexations don't bother you so much.  

You start to notice the people, places, and conversations that no longer serve you.  You see opportunities to grow and become more rooted in places where before you felt completely reactive and at the mercy of your surroundings.  You look at anxiety and stress as what they are, signals that you need to settle more deeply into your truth and your faith.

What I've listed above are just a few themes that have been prevalent for me.  But it all stemmed from professional therapy and doing my own research on anxiety, minimalism, mindfulness, high sensitivity and introversion.   I would love to hear how you are taking baby steps and huge leaps toward living a more peaceful, spacious life.   Please share with me in the comments!


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8 comments:

  1. This post is really inspiring. It is so nice to know there is someone like you who shares my way of thinking and being. Thanks.

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    1. Hi Tina! Yes, I know exactly what you mean. Thank you so much for reading!

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  2. Thank you so much for sharing. It's good to know I'm not alone. I have to fight overwhelm daily but we can find peace through simplicity.

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    1. Yes, and it's so comforting to finally realize that and stop putting so much energy toward things we don't need so we can focus on what's important. :-)

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  3. Thank you for writing this, GG! I ,over the idea of social mantras. That's new for me, but definitely worth trying. Because I live inside my head so much, building community is something inhale to be very intentional about. Thanks for the reminder!

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    1. Hey lady! Thank you for reading. I know exactly what you mean. I'm still working on it, plus the inevitable replaying and over-analyzing that goes on after social interactions. LOL.

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  4. I LOVE this post. Per usual your writing speaks right to my soul. Peace and blessings!

    Siobhan
    www.befreeproject.com

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  5. I am so happy I found your blog. I am in a place in my life where I feel completely lost and this post has given me a starting point. Your writing is amazing and it's given me hope, thank you!

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