Tuesday, April 19, 2016

you are going to have to fall



my one and only 


I had a plan.   I thought I would take a huge leap of faith that would change my life drastically, then I'd sit back and watch everything fall into place.

Because that is what people say:  it all falls into place.  

More accurate for me: it all falls apart and you learn to trust the fall.  

My plan was to leap, but I didn't think much about what would happen next.   I just knew that if I didn't leap, I'd be pushed and I didn't want that to be my story.

The past few years have taught me how important it is to approach both ups and downs with the same willingness.  I prayed for a lifestyle change and I got it.  But it didn't descend on me out of the sky.

If anything fell, it was me.

I fell out of favor with some, because I decided to focus on myself.  I fell off the radar, looking for myself in places where no one could reach me.  I fell out of love with old ideas of myself and others that were holding me back. I fell hard for my dreams and my imagination, because I finally started believing that they were mine for a reason.

Along the way I've learned to fall more gracefully.  It's not a one time thing.  You fall.  You bounce.  You soar.  It becomes a dance.  Every time you are lifted up and every time you drop, you gain wisdom that expands your mind and opens your heart.  How you fall becomes part of your artistry and your growth.  If only we could see falling as a sign of progress.

Falling off the pedestal allows you to be free.  

I know so many people who are afraid to fall for what they believe in because of what people might say.  Because of what is deemed responsible and acceptable and prudent.  I can easily think of dozens of unsolicited comments I've received from people over the years.  When I got pregnant with all these babies without being married. When I went natural.  When I quit my job.  When I stopped letting people's limitations become my own. When I embraced my style.  My pace.  My needs.  When I dared to be human and emotional and unashamed.  There is always someone who will judge and try to detour you with their disappointment.

The escape from all of that is to let yourself fall.  Fall for something that tests your faith and your ability to let go.  It's scary to come undone.  But it you embrace the fall, you can finesse it.  You can observe yourself and grow from it.  Do it with a little more honesty next time and a little more gratitude.   Try doing a flip or a spin in the air.  Arch your back.  Point your toes.  Do not be ashamed to surrender to the ride and make it your own.

I haven't enjoyed every part of my journey.  At all.  But I'm thankful for all of it and the rewards wouldn't be possible without the struggles.

You have to leap and trust the fall.

You might think you want something but you're afraid of what you'll have to sacrifice to get it.  The only way to learn is on the way down.  You might have issues that are so heavy, you think they'll pull you down and you won't survive.  But all things are possible.  You will only learn that on the way down.   There may be obstacles and problems you didn't expect, but it's okay, because as you fall you will see miracles happen, mind shifts and heart breaks, that change your whole everything:  how you live, how you think, how you believe, how you rise back up.

Prayers are powerful.  But blessings are not always obvious.

Plans are good.  But flexibility is magical.

Knowing all of this in theory is helpful but eventually you have to leap and you have to fall to find out for yourself.

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Spring has me feeling all kinds of new feels.  After hibernating most of the winter, I'm craving new sights and experiences and my calendar is filling up.  What about you?  Most importantly, are you honoring how you feel and intentionally giving yourself what you crave?  There are a few spots left for my my next writing and self-discovery workshop on April 30.  If you want to come, don't hesitate.  Join us.  I have to reschedule my May workshop in New York, so I'll have an update on that soon.   Atlanta, I'll be there in September.  Yay!  

Before I go, a few goodies I've been loving:   The Incense Box,  Balm & Co.'s Honeysuckle Turmeric toner,  The Zahir by Paulo Coelho, and Aunt Jackie's Hydrating Sealing Butter.   I'm not being paid to endorse these things, just looking for a way to share.  Talk to you soon.  xo 

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6 comments:


  1. "Along the way I've learned to fall more gracefully. It's not a one time thing. You fall. You bounce. You soar. It becomes a dance."

    This is really uplifting to me, especially as it comes at a point in time when the fall takes a while.
    Thank you, GG.

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    1. Thank you, Adaku!! So happy to hear that. Thank you for your support too, sis. Always. :-)

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    2. Your words and thoughts touch so many on so many levels. Please never stop writing.

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    3. Thanks so much. I can't stop writing. LOL. So I won't. :-)

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  2. Thank you! I've been reading your words for the last 4 years. Pre-depression, during depression and now post-depression. You saved me. I needed this one

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    1. That's amazing! Such a serious reminder of why I do this. Thank you for being here. xoxo

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