"The most challenging aspect of being a woman is balancing Love + Career. When it comes to love, I guess I was once naive to think that love would be easy. From what I remembered, Disney only told me that two people would fall in love, overcome an obstacle, and come out living and loving happily ever after. Ehh, wrong answer.
Where they do that at?! Oh -- in Fairy Tales."
*Describe your a-ha moment.
My greatest a-ha moment would have to be when I realized that I didn't have to please everyone. I've always been quite the perfectionist and with that also came some random desire to always want to make people happy when it came to me, what they thought of me, and my performance.
But when I went away to college, and was finally by myself doing my own thing, I realized Aha! I don't have to please anyone but myself. I can be fearless and free-spirited because at the end of the day, this is my life to claim, no one else's. And ever since then, I've been able to do and live in a way that is most pleasing to myself (and God). I've come to accept that I'm not perfect and that I will never be (in the eyes of the world that is)! And I'm okay with that and I welcome every imperfection with open arms and lots of band-aids!
*What’s your best piece of woman-to-woman advice?
Spend at least a year dating yourself and you'll be much more confident with yourself! Find out the source of your happiness because when you do, you'll never feel that you have to depend on anyone else to be the source of it. And most importantly, accept that life will have its ups and downs. I like to compare my life to an EKG. Without the ups and the downs, I wouldn't have life. Too much of any high or any low will only cause me to flatline.
All of the mistakes I made my freshman year of college. I felt defeated when I didn't understand how college worked - for example, I didn't know that we had to make our own schedules, nor did I know the importance of email. I remember my freshman friends talking about their class schedules and me being like: wait, how do you guys know what classes you're taking? They basically explained to me that an email was sent stating that we had to meet with our advisors to start making our schedules a week prior. It was a wakeup call for me that proved that I no longer was going to have things taught to me and that initiative would be crucial in order to succeed! Ever since then, I womaned up (for the most part) and always made it a point to ask questions and to be on top of my game!
*So far, what has been the most challenging aspect of being a woman?
The most challenging aspect of being a woman is balancing Love + Career. When it comes to love, I guess I was once naive to think that love would be easy. From what I remembered, Disney only told me that two people would fall in love, overcome an obstacle, and come out living and loving happily ever after. Ehh, wrong answer. Where they do that at?! Oh -- in Fairy Tales.
The confusion that comes along with individuals not wanting to fully commit, women feeling as if love is a competition, and social media's effect on relationships is all a bit much. So my young-minded focus has now changed and my career is now my main priority. Which brings me to the second most challenging aspect: Career.
I have met a lot of professionals that I've considered to be potential mentors. However, our mentorships have been compromised simply because they were interested in me more physically than anything else. It does give me a disadvantage because not only do I lose those male influences as mentors but I also lose potential job opportunities. Being a woman is quite a job but never compromise your values and morals in an attempt to get ahead. You'll never win when you pay with your soul.
*What do you not want us to know?I have a weird phobia of holes. As a kid, I've seen creepy things come out of holes -- whether that be mice at an abandoned building or mushrooms out of a hole in the ground (gag) they just really freak me out. So a hole of any sort gives me the heeby-jeebies. Don't judge my honesty. =P.
*When do you feel most creative? What inspires you?
My life experiences and curiosities inspire me the most. I blog, write, and share anything I'm curious about and everything I've experienced. I'm quite the researcher, so I like to read about a lot of different things and I also like to find out why and how things work. All of these things, fuel me to create!
*What does it mean to you to be a soulful beauty?
A Soulful Beauty, to me, is someone who is so rich in her spirit that nothing can shake her. Her soul and spirit are so alive that it is not only seen by others, but it is also felt!
*What is your favorite quote, scripture or affirmation?
"There is no greater agony, than bearing an untold story inside of you." - Maya Angelou