Sunday, July 5, 2015

And Yet I Feel So Brave

When you pray and ask for growth and then everything falls apart. Smile up at the heavens. Make peace with the process. Have faith.

Saturday, July 4, 2015

Jade // #WriteWordsThatMove

Yesterday, I was at brunch chatting with my friend T.J. and we started talking about navigating the perceptions / stereotypes of young, professional women of color in professional spaces. 

She expounded on some of the tools that she uses as a millenial woman of color, educator, & PhD candidate. For example, we talked about dressing more formally for business meetings and teaching sessions, bringing documentation or research that would assert our professional critiques, wearing a name badge that connected us to the institution, etc. 

However, it was what she said at the end of our conversation that really stuck with me, "Other people may not have to use these same tools as me, and I usually encourage them to reflect in those instances to see if there is any type of (race, class, socioeconomic, age) privilege attached to that. But individually, I make sure to never compromise my soul. I can get dressed up to teach; that doesn't compromise my soul. But there are other types of image management that I just won't do - that compromise my soul. It's different for everyone". 

I think T.J.'s advice applies in these cases. It is the same advice that I give people who ask, "Should I change my hair for the interview space? Should I engage in a certain type of image management?" The answer to that lies in the question, "Does that compromise your soul?"  - continue reading on Jade's blog

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Thursday, July 2, 2015

Inward Living. Outward World. #QuietPowers

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It's been a long day. You've worked for ten hours, you've interacted with people all day and now all you want to do is be alone and process it all. But you have a family dinner tonight. It's your favorite cousin's birthday and you don't want to miss it. You want to be there for her milestone, but you're not particularly in the mood to interact with the whole family. You feel socially awkward, not because these are people you don't know, but because you aren't in the mood to be social. You haven't had time to recharge.

So what do you do?

Saturday, June 27, 2015

Three Questions // #WriteWordsThatMove

I enjoy watching other people. I’m fascinated by how they move and interact with one another. 

Maybe that’s one reason why I enjoy reading and watching biographies. The statement “Every life has a story” is one of my favorite sayings. My social media page includes this statement, but it ends with “I’m living mine.” 

I guess that is the question “Am I living mine?”

When I look at my life today, like many others, it’s nothing like I expected it to be. I think about this revelation from time and time. But it’s only until recently that I’ve come to a deeper revelation. The reason why I’m not where I thought I would be is because when I get real honest with myself, I would have to answer one of three questions:

Do I want to be there because that’s where society expects me to be? 

You know there where society puts a timeline on your life. When you should get married, have kids and a career; the list goes on.

Is the reason I’m not there because of fear? 

There have been a number of things I wanted to do but always found a way to talk myself out of it. As if I’m not worthy of what it is that I desire.

Am I not there because subconsciously I chose not to be there? 

Always one to follow my own mind, I still wanted to be “normal” and “fit in” with everyone else. But when it came down to it, I always did what was right for me.

We have a habit of beating ourselves up when we feel society’s pressures. But maybe on some level, the reason we haven’t is because we really didn’t want to, didn’t feel comfortable or the time simply wasn’t right.

At this point in my life, I can’t undo what was/wasn’t done. The best I can do is take all that has happened, accept it and move towards the best that God has planned for me. Because unlike myself, He has the A, B, C or D plan of getting me where I need to be.

So am I living mine? 

I’m living it just the way I need to live it. I wasn’t meant to live it like everyone else. As the Bible says I’m in this world, but I’m not of it. - S. Hood

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Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Devri // Soulful Beauty of the Week

"Honestly, I feel like I’ve made so many mistakes in my life--the main thing that helps me is knowing I actually learned something from each of them. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, good and bad. So any ‘mistake’ I’ve made or regret that I’ve had was a vital stepping stone in understanding the wholeness of who I am meant to become in this lifetime."

Photo Credit: Devin Mazza

Monday, June 22, 2015

Thoughts on Beauty, Space and Motions Hair

Lately I've noticed that I have some space.  A little breathing room.  My kids are getting older.  Just enough that I find myself with unexpected pockets of time to myself.  Like right now.  They are all off doing their own things with their friends.

With them occupied, I was able to organize my desk, do some planning for the week and sit down to write this long overdue blog post.  Most of the time I get teary-eyed at the thought of them getting older, but this right here...this wiggle room?  I like it.  I like it a lot.

My youngest is almost five and since she was born, I've been overwhelmed.  Usually feeling frazzled and a bit disheveled.  My response has been to simplify things as much as possible.  I used to be more of a girly girl -- shopping, painting my nails and doing my hair -- ALL the time.  But having a kid, and then another kid and then another kid changed my time and energy capacity to the point that I decided I needed simpler beauty routines and less primping to feel beautiful.  I wanted to be able to get up and go in just a few minutes, without necessarily looking like it.

When I left my job in 2013, all I wanted to do with my free time was write and write and write.  I didn't want to be bothered with my hair or my clothes or any of that.  I've been rocking white tees, ripped jeans and low maintenance hair ever since.  Minimal makeup, minimal products, capsule wardrobe.  Stumbling into this way of life was my fate. I always felt weird when I was trying to be fancy.  Now, I feel more at home in my skin than I ever have.

So with my breathing room, I recently got a chance to try some products that Motions Hair sent me  and I wanted to share my thoughts with you as well as something special that will be happening on the blog later this summer...

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